Help! I’ve Been Rejected by People I Thought I Could Trust! [339]
Description
Have you ever crawled your way out of an emotionally abusive relationship, finally free, only to be met with cold shoulders, Christian cliques, and confused stares from the very people who should’ve been first in line at your welcome-back party?
Or maybe you’ve thought about getting out, but your instincts all tell you that you’ll lose everyone you love in the process?
In this episode, I answer two listener-submitted questions that go straight to the heart of what so many Christian women wrestle with post-abuse: rejection from family, exclusion in church, and the confusion that comes with trying to be a decent human in the aftermath of emotional trauma.
We talk:
- The underbelly of emotional immaturity
- Spiritual bypassing in religious circles
- What “grace” actually looks like (hint: it’s not begging for scraps)
- And why your healing is not up for debate
This one’s for every woman who’s been ghosted by her family or made to feel like a spiritual pariah in the church lobby.
Read the full show notes and/or ask Natalie a question here
Related Resources:
- Get a free chapter of my book, “Is It Me? Making Sense of Your Confusing Marriage” and companion workbook when you hop on my mailing list.
- Listen to some related Flying Free Podcast episodes, including “Why Being Rejected by Your Church and Family Hurts So Bad” and “When You’ve Been Hurt by Church.”

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